Live Offensively - Attack Life and Win!
Are you living defensively?
Are you prepared for attack at all times? Is someone or some situation holding you hostage in fear? That is living defensively. Here is a definition from The Free Dictionary.
Psychology Constantly protecting oneself from criticism, exposure of one’s shortcomings, or other real or perceived threats to the ego.
Do you live in fear that you will be found out?
Are you afraid that the real you will be exposed and no one will like you. Or do you fear that if you let someone in to know the real you will be hurt? Are you in a situation that has you so upset or scared that you don’t know how to get out of it?I am sure you have a good reason or reasons for feeling this way. You look back and you can remember every time you were hurt or disappointed by someone else. You can grudge up every detail and it makes your heart hurt. You breath hard and want to cry just thinking about the situation that has you frozen in fear. You ask why do these things happen to me? I am a good person, I don’t deserve all the hurt and pain.
Do you want good things to happen in your life?
I know you want good things to come to you. You deserve good things. Great things are waiting for you. You need to learn to live offensively and accept good things in your life again. You used to expect good things, then a few things happened that didn’t go the way you intended you held those events in your memory as bad things and you have not let them go.
You can change your life today by changing your thinking.
When you begin to live offensively you attack life with a passion. You know what your purpose is and NOTHING will hold you back. You know where you are going and even if you don’t win a battle you will approach from a different front. You know that you deserve great things and you will not stop going after great things ever.
Personal Story
I know I have been stuck in defensive mode for the past several years. I had several things happen in my life that I let change my usual offensive attack on life. I sat around saying…
- Why me? Why can’t I get the things I want?I used to get everything I wanted.
- What is blocking me from the great things in life? I don’t know what to do!
- How can I make my life better? I am not good enough, I am not smart enough or experienced enough and I definitely don’t have a enough money to get me out of the financial trouble I am in.
I wanted my life to be better, I was stuck in a pattern that I couldn’t get out of and I wasn’t sure how. It felt like prison. I felt like even if I attempted something it would end in disaster so mostly I didn’t try. Recently, I read about living defensively and I realized that that is exactly how I was living. I wanted to stay in bed and hope that life would pass by without paying any attention to me. I wouldn’t get hurt that way right?
That is not me. I love to live. I love laughing, talking, shopping, eating, traveling, and even working hard. I really do love to work hard, in the past working hard always equaled success and money, but over the past few years working hard didn’t seem to equal anything good.
I am living offensively again. I am attacking life with more energy than ever. I am setting goals that help me get out of bed and I am practicing visualization of how my day will go before I get out of bed. I am letting go of fear
I am thankful for this experience. I realize that my purpose has everything to do with what I have been through. I am not a bad person for slipping into a defensive life and I wasn’t being punished. I needed to experience this part of life to make the rest of my life more meaningful. What a lesson!
If you are living your life defensively you can change today. Spend a few hours or even a day seeking your purpose. Find a reason to live and live with purpose! Here are a few post that you will find helpful in finding your purpose.
Stumble it!
