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Are you living defensively?
Are you prepared for attack at all times? Is someone or some situation holding you hostage in fear? That is living defensively. Here is a definition from The Free Dictionary.

Psychology Constantly protecting oneself from criticism, exposure of one’s shortcomings, or other real or perceived threats to the ego.

Do you live in fear that you will be found out?
Are you afraid that the real you will be exposed and no one will like you. Or do you fear that if you let someone in to know the real you will be hurt? Are you in a situation that has you so upset or scared that you don’t know how to get out of it?I am sure you have a good reason or reasons for feeling this way. You look back and you can remember every time you were hurt or disappointed by someone else. You can grudge up every detail and it makes your heart hurt. You breath hard and want to cry just thinking about the situation that has you frozen in fear. You ask why do these things happen to me? I am a good person, I don’t deserve all the hurt and pain.

Do you want good things to happen in your life?
I know you want good things to come to you. You deserve good things. Great things are waiting for you. You need to learn to live offensively and accept good things in your life again. You used to expect good things, then a few things happened that didn’t go the way you intended you held those events in your memory as bad things and you have not let them go.

You can change your life today by changing your thinking.
When you begin to live offensively you attack life with a passion. You know what your purpose is and NOTHING will hold you back. You know where you are going and even if you don’t win a battle you will approach from a different front. You know that you deserve great things and you will not stop going after great things ever.

Personal Story
I know I have been stuck in defensive mode for the past several years. I had several things happen in my life that I let change my usual offensive attack on life. I sat around saying…

• Why me? Why can’t I get the things I want?I used to get everything I wanted.
• What is blocking me from the great things in life? I don’t know what to do!
• How can I make my life better? I am not good enough, I am not smart enough or experienced enough and I definitely don’t have a enough money to get me out of the financial trouble I am in.

I wanted my life to be better, I was stuck in a pattern that I couldn’t get out of and I wasn’t sure how. It felt like prison. I felt like even if I attempted something it would end in disaster so mostly I didn’t try. Recently, I read about living defensively and I realized that that is exactly how I was living. I wanted to stay in bed and hope that life would pass by without paying any attention to me. I wouldn’t get hurt that way right?

That is not me. I love to live. I love laughing, talking, shopping, eating, traveling, and even working hard. I really do love to work hard, in the past working hard always equaled success and money, but over the past few years working hard didn’t seem to equal anything good.

I am living offensively again. I am attacking life with more energy than ever. I am setting goals that help me get out of bed and I am practicing visualization of how my day will go before I get out of bed. I am letting go of fear

I am thankful for this experience. I realize that my purpose has everything to do with what I have been through. I am not a bad person for slipping into a defensive life and I wasn’t being punished. I needed to experience this part of life to make the rest of my life more meaningful. What a lesson!

If you are living your life defensively you can change today. Spend a few hours or even a day seeking your purpose. Find a reason to live and live with purpose! Here are a few post that you will find helpful in finding your purpose.

• What is Your Life’s Purpose?
• Create Your Diving Order
• Be True to Yourself

I am always looking for good books to read. I like checking out other peoples favorite book. I recently read The Secret and You’ve Got to Read this Book, and As a Man Thinketh was mentioned in both books. So, I checked this book out at the library.

As a Man Thinketh by James Allen was written a long time ago (I searched the book for a copyright date and it doesn’t have one), I think around the turn of the century.

This one is a small book (about 4″ wide x 5″ tall) with only only 72 pages. It resembles a children’s book, it is that small, but the information inside is big. I was surprised when I picked it up at the library to find such a tiny book. The librarian sad small books like this one can take longer to read than big books because you must think about the message.

The message in the book is simple, “The themselves are makers of themselves.” Simply put, your thoughts create your life. The book is just that simple. I enjoyed reading it the first time because it reinforces the law of attraction.

I think the writer puts a little too much negative stuff in to explain the positive stuff. I started to reread this little book but found myself disappointed and not very interested.

I think you will find this book very helpful if you are in the early stages of learning the law of attraction but if you are already practicing it it will not be new material.

Best Wishes.

About a week ago I created my own Divine Order. What is a Divine Order you ask?

According to K-L at be Conscious now, a Divine Order is simply stating clearly and with intention what you want. It can be done many ways and you can tweak the process to whatever fits you best. It is best to write it down in exact detail, what you are visualizing. (When writing the Divine Order don’t think about “how” just focus on the end result.

She recommends you set time aside for yourself, it can be an hour, an afternoon, an entire day or even a weekend. Spend that time getting in touch with what YOU really want, not your ego self, that is swayed by peers, family and outside influence.

Your Divine Order needs to come from your heart. So, you need to get in touch with your Self before you can really create. You must see your Divine Order finished and give thanks to the Universe/God/Goddess. It is the Law of Attraction. Create the image and see it already done.

One of the the most important things about creating your Divine Order is giving gratitude for your intentions. Once you complete the Divine Order fold it up and put it away. Now thank the Universe/God/Goddess for what you have and give thanks for what you are manifesting in your Divine Order like it is already yours. Whenever it pops in your mind give thanks.

Thanks K-L for your great advise. I am planning to share my Divine Order in the near future.

Last week, I started and finished The Secret by Rhonda Bryne and I loved it. I had a great week and will have many more … forever!

The book was exactly what I have been asking for. I recently was questioning my thinking. I was trying to manifest good things in my life but I was having trouble getting past my negative self-talk. I would say positive things and then my little voice would say, “but you can’t afford that.”

I call the little voice “Nego”. It has been holding me back for years. Recently, I was struggling with how to break it because it was telling the truth. How could I stop the madness? How do I talk to myself positively and achieve the things I wanted? I kept asking the Universe, God, even my husband. I have been waiting for an answer.

I got my answer in The Secret. The Law of Attraction is the “secret”. Like attracts like so, when “Nego” would tell me I couldn’t afford anything I believed it and attracted more thoughts of not affording my needs and wants.

Last Monday I started reading the book. I read half the book that first night. It was so powerful I felt an excitement inside of me that I haven’t felt in a long time (you know, like butterflies in your stomach). The really exciting thing was that it answered my question.

It wasn’t necessarily new information but it put all the things I knew about positive mental attitude together and gave me the secret to make them all work.

That night I couldn’t fall asleep (actually there have been many sleepless nights since then) because it got my mind running and motivated. I was imagining all the great things in my life. Somethings I already have and somethings I will have very soon.

I finished the book on Tuesday evening and learned about gratitude. Thanking God and the Universe for everything you have and everything you will have. I slept a little better the second night but I woke and got busy thanking God and the Universe for all the great things in my life before my feet even hit the floor. I do this any way but it feels so much more powerful now.

As my mind has been focusing on the postive, I am noticing that I pay attention to everything I say. If a say a sentence in conversation with someone (or to myself), I stop myself when the word NOT (or any other form of it, i.e. can’t) is in the sentence. I then replace that sentence with a positive sentence sometimes meaning the same thing but positive or something completely different. I analyze the sentence and sometimes conclude that it was a statement taking me in the wrong direction completely.

I cannot tell you how much better I feel. I know that I have used the principles of The Secret in my life many times before. I just didn’t know I was doing something so powerful and attracting the great things I received.

I mentioned old “Nego” earlier, well my new, big voice that I hear is “Pos-o” (pronounced pawso). “Pos’o” tells me great things. “Pos’o” loves me and knows that I can do anything because I have achieved great things many times before.

I am using visualization to change my thinking too. I see “Pos-o” in my mind as a stick figure with a big happy face in yellow. “Nego” is also a stick figure with a frown face in blue. “Pos-o” doesn’t care much for “Nego”, whenever “Nego” pops in my head with negative, limiting thoughts “Pos-o” shoots him with a bow and arrow. “Pos-o” smile gets bigger and I know I am defeating my negative thoughts. It is awesome!

I think the visualization has really helped me be more aware of my thoughts and that I have the power to control my thoughts and what is happening in my life. I have always had the power (and what great POWER!) but I was not using it properly.

If you are looking for the way to make you life better read or watch The Secret . If you want to stay the course with your life then don’t, it probably won’t help you unless you are seeking answers like I was.

Dad-ism #2

My dad passed away a few years ago and I only have memories to look back on. I am very fortunate that he shared his wisdom often when he was alive. I am so excited to share his “dad-isms” with you (I call them Dad-isms because they are unique and belong to my dad).

My dad always said, “Don’t wait until Shopper’s Fair opens.”

You see, in the 60’s, a friend of his owned a used car lot across the street from a future shopping center. His friend’s business was not doing very well and instead of putting in extra effort, doing more advertising, etc., he sat there and said, “If I can just hold on until Shopper’s Fair opens.”

He thought that the traffic to the new shopping center would bring him loads of business without the effort. The problem was the shopping center was delayed and the friend’s business failed. My dad learned a lesson and always recognized when it was time to “Just do it!” He often told me, “Don’t wait until Shopper’s Fair opens.” I knew exactly what he meant. Don’t wait around for something to happen, make something happen.

This can be easier said than done.

If you listen to your instincts you will see the Universe is guiding you. I am sure my dad’s friend was told by friends that he should do more for his business than wait for the shopping center to open, he probably knew it in his own heart, but he chose the easy fix.

John Chow at John Chow dot com has a great post on this topic, too. Basically, stop making excuses and just do it! There will never be a perfect time and whatever you need is out there waiting for you. Good Luck! You could be the next Bill Gates, Sam Walton, or Ray Croc. All you have to do is BELIEVE it!!